Seven Months

 Hi Everyone,


Today is seven months since Sue died and needless to say the mood swings are dramatic.  I have been surrounded all day by loving people who are holding my heart and encouraging me through their friendship to hang on when sometimes there is nothing in me except the will which says, "hold on."  (See Rudyard Kipling's poem, "If" to which I have referred before but seems very timely tonight)

As I reflect on the ups and downs of the past seven months, I am thinking about the significance of the number seven as it relates to the days of creation and the days of the week.  We recall the number seven and remember that on the seventh day G-d completed creation and rested.  Maybe it is time to celebrate creation and all the kindness and love  which we have created and let grief rest.  Maybe it is time to celebrate the morning of a new day of hope and let mourning rest.  (Easier said than done, but I am trying...)


I remember that Sue made special mention of a sermon I once gave about looking for the light in our world.  As I was driving today, I heard the following song which was the basis of that sermon.  (See below)

May the ice of despair melt since it seems like years since Sue has been with us.  Perhaps it is time to celebrate the light and warmth which Sue brought to our world and celebrate all the love and kindness which she created in all that she did.  Maybe it is time to live the words of this song and recognize that her legacy can be summed up in these words...

Thanks for all the support over the past seven months.  

Rabbi Bruce Aft

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